Coaching
A Gallant Leader knows that it is time.
There is a line. In front of you.
You know what that line is.
What it represents.
The line you haven’t dared to pass.
To the dream you never dared to articulate.
The line where you haven’t said what you wanted to say.
What was important to say.
The line where you haven’t stood for something, even when you believed – with every fiber in your being – that it was true.
The line beyond what others told you was too much to ask for, but you knew was still even less than your worth. Your real value.
You know what that line is.
You know exactly where it is.
Even when you can’t see it. Don’t see it. Won’t see it.
How much does it cost you?
To hold back. To compromise on what you want.
To not say what needs to be said.
To not ask for what you’re worth, what you deserve, what you have earned.
When I became a lawyer, I thought I wouldn’t pay those costs.
I thought I had gained power and influence. That’s what LA Law told me.
Yet. It did cost me.
In my first job, it almost cost me $12,000. After 18 months on the job I learned a man hired at the same time as me and two other women was paid $8,000 more than we were.
For one reason only.
He asked and we didn’t.
The mystery why he could negotiate when we couldn’t?
There is no mystery.
All that training in girlhood and womanhood.
To be polite, not brag, don’t get too big for your britches, take care of other’s feelings, be a good team player, don’t rock the boat baby.
And a single moment of someone saying
“No, don’t go there”
is enough to stop our tracks.
That’s a good girl.
Enough!
I don’t want this anymore. For me, for you, for any woman, like Michelle.
When Michelle called me, she was 45 with two girls in college and a retired husband. All her life as a leader in the tech industry, she negotiated great deals for her company, but never herself. She simply never asked. Enough. For enough.
She knew it was time to step up, to cross that line. She was determined to move up the ladder and into the C-Suite at last, and accelerate her earning power.
We worked to amplify her ask through multiple job offers. By crystalizing her vision, her most important goals, values and optimal outcomes.
She found accountability in our work that grounded her vision deep into the earth like the mighty willow tree, with the flexion necessary to bend into creative solutions that met her needs and theirs.
Holding firm to this core vision, Michelle amplified her Ask far beyond where she had ever gone before.
She asked for more – 30% more – not once but twice. She stood firm in the heat of the fiery moment, for the first time in her life. And she won something that day.
Michelle won that acceleration to the C-Suite. She negotiated 20% over the offer, more than doubling her salary with an increase over $100,000. More valuable than all of that, Michelle won confidence and belief in herself. That she can do it again. And that is Priceless!
I invite you to take one step today, to cross your line. It needs to be crossed. I invite you to nail down what it means to have your dream, to amplify your ask, and get what you want.
Book a time to chat with me about how to get what you want, without sacrificing your personal life, values or authentic self.
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