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I woke up from a hangover. A Tall Poppy adrenaline hangover. I crashed. Had a nap out in the park. Here’s why… Yesterday’s Tall Poppy Revolution Power Up and Thrive Summit was Ah-Mazing! “T…

I woke up from a hangover.

A Tall Poppy adrenaline hangover. I crashed. Had a nap out in the park. Here’s why…

Yesterday’s Tall Poppy Revolution Power Up and Thrive Summit was Ah-Mazing!

“Tall Poppy was terrific!”
“The speakers were just fabulous”
“What an inspiring session! Thank you”
“Especially enjoy the theme of “thriving” rather than “striving”-best for the long haul!”
“I am so enjoying today!”
“A truly wonderful event, thank you”

We even had a post-event mini-dance party! Which brought out, I think my favourite comment: “YOU ROCK!”

Much gratitude to our wonderful speakers Valerie Young Carla Rieger @SheilaNetti @HeatherOdendaal @DaliaFeldheim @SableBadaki @TeenaEvert @AnjelBHartwell @ElisaJames
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#impostersyndrome #womenleaders #womensleadership #womensleadershipsummit #powerupandthrive #powerupandthrivesummit #tallpoppyrevolution #thriveindisruption #diversityandinclusion #inclusiveleadership #genderequality #womensequalityday #intersectionalleadership #mindsetshift #mindstories #womenandwealth

I woke up from a hangover. A Tall Poppy adrenaline hangover. I crashed. Had a nap out in the park. Here’s why… Yesterday’s Tall Poppy Revolution Power Up and Thrive Summit was Ah-Mazing! “T…

I woke up from a hangover.

A Tall Poppy adrenaline hangover. I crashed. Had a nap out in the park. Here’s why…

Yesterday’s Tall Poppy Revolution Power Up and Thrive Summit was Ah-Mazing!

“Tall Poppy was terrific!”
“The speakers were just fabulous”
“What an inspiring session! Thank you”
“Especially enjoy the theme of “thriving” rather than “striving”-best for the long haul!”
“I am so enjoying today!”
“A truly wonderful event, thank you”

We even had a post-event mini-dance party! Which brought out, I think my favourite comment: “YOU ROCK!”

Much gratitude to our wonderful speakers Valerie Young Carla Rieger Sheila Netti Heather Odendaal Dalia Feldheim Sable Badaki(she,her,hers) Teena Evert Anjel B Hartwell Elisa James
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#impostersyndrome #womenleaders #womensleadership #womensleadershipsummit #powerupandthrive #powerupandthrivesummit #tallpoppyrevolution #thriveindisruption #diversityandinclusion #inclusiveleadership #genderequality #womensequalityday #intersectionalleadership #mindsetshift #mindstories #womenandwealth

Tomorrow is Women’s Equality Day!

Tomorrow is Women’s Equality Day! The 100th anniversary of the 19th Amendment granting women the right to vote in the U.S.

Find out how we are celebrating!
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#womensequalityday #genderequality #inclusion #powerupandthrive #powerupandthrivesummit #womenpower #womenleaders #womeninbusiness #womenlead #empoweringwomen #empoweredwomen

Why we’re celebrating!

Tomorrow is Women’s Equality Day! The 100th anniversary of the 19th Amendment granting women the right to vote in the U.S.

Find out how we are celebrating!
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#womensequalityday #genderequality #inclusion #powerupandthrive #powerupandthrivesummit #womenpower #womenleaders #womeninbusiness #womenlead #empoweringwomen #empoweredwomen

An older post from October 2018 that never launched on Buffer: How’s your Self Worth? Today’s lessons from my workout with Daily Burn @TiffanyElsener #SelfWorth #WorthIt #BetterLifeBootcamp #Brin…

An older post from October 2018 that never launched on Buffer:
How’s your Self Worth? Today’s lessons from my workout with Daily Burn @TiffanyElsener #SelfWorth #WorthIt #BetterLifeBootcamp #BringIt

Want to Raise Your Profile? Ask for A Raise!

A lesser-known benefit of asking for a raise:

When you get outside your comfort zone and ask for a raise, you raise your profile.

In your leader’s eyes, and in your own eyes. When you ask for more than what your leader or manager has offered, this positions you automatically as someone who goes for what she wants. Someone who WILL take the risk that she might not get it, at least not right then. Someone who will also more than likely do the same for your organization.

I was recently interviewed by women.com and shared my top 5 tips for asking for a raise, and 3 things to avoid doing. I also shared a brief story about a client who successfully negotiated a more than 20% increase, in part by recruiting an ally for her cause. Click on the women dot com logo to check out the full article here:

My client was initially offered far less when she asked for a raise to a specific amount. She stuck with her number and ended up with more than a 20% salary increase. The added benefit: Her leader told her he appreciated how prepared she was for the conversation, and noted that she was being a great advocate for herself.

Boom! Profile raised.

The benefit of raising your profile can far out-weigh and even outlast any increase in salary, position, benefits or responsibility. Asking for a raise or promotion positions you as someone to take seriously. Someone who takes her work and her value seriously.

You can take the other road, keep your head down and focus on delivering great work, and hope they notice and reward your efforts, without your having to ask for it.  But let me ask you:

How’s that working for you?

Here’s some math: Over the course of your career, you could be leaving behind $1,500,000 by not asking. That’s a lot of zeros. A lot of shoes — a lot of family vacations– a lot more time in good health.

If you aren’t asking for more because you are nervous, afraid or unsure of what to say, this only means that asking for a raise is not familiar to you. Get some help from someone who can help you figure it out, help you practice and rehearse the conversation. Work with a coach or advisor, or a peer who has done it successfully. Join a community where others are practicing these new skills too.

Then buckle up buttercup! Grab a bit of courage and go ahead and ask!

I’d love to hear any of your experiences with how asking for a raise has raised your profile. I know we can all use hearing some encouraging stories.

7 Signs You Could Be Under-Earning

 

Are you Under-Earning?

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You might be under earning – earning less than your worth – even if you make over six figures!

How do you know if you are?  There are several signs of under-earning, some common and some not so common.

Barbara Stanny defines an Under-Earner as “someone who makes less than she needs or desires despite efforts to do otherwise.”

Red Alert! Before you read further, I want you to stop. Even if you already recognize yourself here, be kind to yourself. Do not label yourself as an “under-earner”. Focus instead on the signs of under-earning behaviours. Because you can shift and even swap them out for more self-affirming behaviours that will move you closer to earning your true worth.

I collected quite a list of signs of under-earning behaviour from what I hear from my clients, in my speaking engagements and through informal surveys – and I’m going to share the Top Signs of Under-Earning with you over the next few weeks. I’m also going to share some tips that will empower you to overcome these signs of under-earning.

Empowerment begins with Awareness. Awareness of both your strengths and blind spots – where you may not be experiencing the results you could.

Let’s begin raising that awareness today.

Notice which of these signs show up in your life. You might be surprised!

7 Signs You Could Be Under-Earning:

Checkmark greenYou KNOW you are worth more than you are being paid. You’re just not sure how to prove that. You find it difficult to articulate what your worth is exactly, and are baffled how others seem to do it.

Checkmark greenYour strengths, talents or genius are your “best kept secret”. You often hear others say, “I didn’t know you could do that!” or, “I didn’t know you were an expert in that!”

Checkmark greenYou keep getting passed over for promotions or business opportunities. You see others getting ahead who are less qualified than you.

Checkmark greenYou are not working in your “Genius Zone” 80% of the time. Most of the time you do work that you could delegate or stop doing altogether. You could be leveraging your time doing what you are really good at, that comes easy for you, and has the biggest impact.

Checkmark greenYou sit on the outside ring at important meetings, gravitating to the social crowd rather than the influencer crowd. It’s easier to sit at the back and socialize with your peers, than to put yourself “out there”, sit in the hot seat at the Big Table. You shy away from standing out.

Checkmark greenYou stay in your “comfort zone” and don’t take any risks. You’ve been hurt or penalized before, and you don’t want to experience that again.

Each of these signs of under-earning is a symptom of the #1 Sign of Under-Earning on today’s list:

Checkmark greenYou are not Shining Your Light.

Rather than getting help (coaching, mentoring, training) to boost your capacity to handle difficult of situations that challenge you (having a difficult conversation, standing up for yourself, asking or negotiating for something), you hang back where it’s comfortable and stay small.

By being the Shrinking Violet rather than risking being cut down as a Tall Poppy, you are also shrinking from opportunities for others to SEE you, to see what you are capable of, to see your Genius.

If you are waiting for them to notice you…well if you are playing small, how can they? Find a way to let them know what you are up to.

If you think this is bragging, and you don’t want to “brag”, then re-think. Re-frame it as “sharing”. You’re already good at sharing right? Share what you are doing, what you are capable of, what you have achieved. HELP them to notice YOU.

Shining your light is not about being alone in the spotlight (although that’s okay too!). It’s about allowing your true self, your authentic self, your one wild and precious* self to shine. It’s about not dimming your own light.

Isn’t it time?

It is.

It’s time to stop under-earning. To start doing something that you CAN do right now.

What is one step you could take this week that would shine your light, just a little bit more?

Share your plans in the comments box below.

If you resonate with one or more of these signs of under-earning or struggle with negotiating for your worth, I’m offering one of my E.A.R.N. Your Worth™ Breakthrough Session right now, on a first come, first served basis. With Gender Pay Day approaching in April, I’d like to help some people who know they’re in this situation and are up for shining their light, asking for or negotiating their true worth.

If you want one of these sessions, shoot me an email and let me know what you’re struggling with. Tell me a little bit about your situation, why you should get one of these sessions and we’ll book it.

 

*Acknowledgement to the delightful Mary Oliver and her poem Summer: “What will you do with your one wild and precious life?”

Mindful Leadership

The Power of Mindful Leadership

June 24 @ 9:30 am – 5:00 pm

Carrie and CricketWhat do Emotional Intelligence guru Daniel Goleman, New York designer Eileen Fisher, and the Dali Lama have in common with corporate giants like Google, General Foods, Goldman Sachs, and Apple?

They are all committed to incorporating mindfulness practice and techniques into their lives and corporate culture in order to improve their bottom line by making better decisions, reducing stress, and living with more joy and creativity.

Focus, clarity, creativity, compassion, and courage.

These are the five qualities Harvard Business School professor Bill George believes create the right chemistry for today’s best leaders to succeed, the resilience to cope with the many challenges coming their way and the resolve to sustain long­-term success.

If you think about it, it just makes sense.

The foundation of real and powerful leadership is the ability to clear one’s mind, focus on what is important, and release the clutter borne of too much information and multi­-tasking.

Which of these leadership qualities and strengths do you bring to your team? How are you at self-­leading and moving through challenges? What gaps in your leadership are apparent to others that may not be apparent to you?

The Power of Mindful Leadership Intensive

Horses as prey animals live naturally in a constant state of mindful awareness. They spend most of their time playing awareness and leadership games with each other in order to hone their survival and leadership skills. As SMEs (Subject Matter Experts) in leadership and mindfulness, horses can teach us a lot about our own leadership and mindfulness skills.

This experiential workshop will immerse you in the qualities and competencies of mindful leadership through engagement with the horses in simple ground exercises, as well as group discussions and debriefs. We will explore what mindful leadership means to us, how we are as leaders, what is working for us as leaders, and what the gaps are in awareness and how to resolve them.

What can I expect? 

You will:

  • Have a deeply personal and insightful experience with the horses as well as with the other workshop participants
  • Expand your awareness of your strengths and areas of growth as a Mindful Leader, including your impact on others and your relationships
  • Align your vision of yourself as leader with your actions and behaviour
  • Learn how to move through the states of awareness to resolve challenges
  • Apply what you learn to gain a better understanding of your presence as a leader and to fully embody and sustain the improvement to your mindful leadership.

Who is this for?

Professional women who want to up their game and expand their leadership skillset and emotional intelligence through mindful awareness.

Enrolment is limited so book early! Click here to register 

The fee for the day includes catered lunch and refreshment breaks. Please wear comfortable layered clothing suitable for the outdoors as we will spend some of the time outside with the horses. Boots or sturdy footwear is required. Non-refundable deposit: $150

Relevant Reading:

Developing Mindful Leaders for the C-Suite, Harvard Business Review, Bill George, http://bit.ly/1g2Q0lg

The Focused Leader, Harvard Business Review, Daniel Goleman, http://bit.ly/1EHUPMR

Future of Work: Mindfulness as a Leadership Practice, Forbes, http://onforb.es/1ipkM9T

EQ = ML + (A+C) + CC, Blog post, Evelyn McKelvie, http://bit.ly/1EeDQPX

 

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Date: June 24
Time: 9:30 am – 5:00 pm

Venue

Wisteria Acres
8648 Armstrong Road
Langley, British ColumbiaV1M 2R3 Canada
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Firsts ARE Relevant

Female Jockey

When was a girl, I wanted to be the very FIRST female jockey. I was horse-mad. If you ever have been, you know what I am talking about. It consumed me. My imagination, my time and my reading list. Whenever I could, the horse-madness consumed my weekends at “the barn”. I ran the scholastic book club mail orders in my class; I would spend all of my allowance to max out the minimum order of five books if there weren’t enough orders, just to get the one I really wanted about a horse. I could rattle off every winner of the Kentucky Derby, the Preakness and the Belmont Stakes and the few Triple Crown winners.

Secretariat was my hero. Really. I don’t remember having human heroes (male or female) as a girl. I wanted to be in it. I wanted to fly with Secretariat, to be the lucky person who could fly that fast attached to his back like – well like a fly. His primary jockey, Ron Turcotte, was Canadian. I was Canadian too, and small enough, so I just KNEW. Knew with the unwavering clarity and belief that a child can have. Knew that I could do it. That WE could do it. The horse and I.

I think I was 7 or 8 when my “dream” of being the first female jockey was dashed. Diane Crump took the reins in her first professional race in 1969, then 1970 as first female jockey in the Kentucky Derby. (It would be another 23 years before a woman jockey won a Triple Crown race, when Julie Krone won the Belmont Stakes.

That was a barn-burner. Three short years later Bille Jean King famously challenged Bobby Riggs to a tennis match – and WON!!

Belief barriers were falling everywhere, just like when Roger Banister blasted through the barrier to the four-minute mile. No one thought it could be done, would ever be done. Or SHOULD be done, in many cases for women.

Turns out, it was just a thought. A thought in Roger Banisters case, that it was humanly, physically impossible. A thought in Billie Jean King’s case, that it was womanly, physically impossible. A thought, in Diane Crump’s case, that allowing a woman jockey would ruin the “sport of Kings”.

As a girl, somehow I just knew it WAS possible for a female jockey to make it in a sport dominated by men. Women are smaller right? Many race horse exercisers are women for that reason. Isn’t this the one sport where it made sense for women to compete against men?

There was something even then in my attraction to FIRSTs.

I used to think all this focus on FIRST when I was a girl was part of my inner competitiveness, a desire to push myself. What I see now, is that my excitement to want to be the first female jockey, then the  first female race car driver – that was about my wanting to be all that I COULD be, and wanting to prove that I could, that a woman COULD do those things.

The notion of being First, was really about my needing to see someone in the saddle that looked like me. I wanted someone in the race that looked like I did in my imagination. It wasn’t fair that these jockeys and race car drivers didn’t look like anyone like me. A girl. How would it be possible for me to cure horses’ diseases (my bigger WHY in my grade eight science project examining the heartbeat of horses) if I didn’t see the world as possible for me?

When Diane Crump took the pole as the first female jockey, I turned my sights to another sport most similar in my mind – race car driving! That looked like fun! Remember, I was twelve. I didn’t have a drivers licence, or even a motorcycle, yet. Until a woman stepped into that pole position, I figured it could be me, or it had to be me. So someone else would know it was possible, damn it, to be what I wanted to be.

These FIRSTs, these women who did it First – they are critical to all of those girls and women who are hungry to be ALL that they can be. It’s not “irrelevant” to name and honour these FIRSTs.

And now we actually see women who could be on that famous U.S Army commercial (circa 1981): Be all that you can be…

Side note: I almost went to the RMC – Royal Military College, partly as a result of that commercial. I WANTED to be all that I could be! Plus, I might have thought I would please my father, who fought in WWII as part of the 1st Special Services Force. But I doubt it would have; he hardly ever talked about those years, he’d seen too much.

These FIRSTs are HEROES. To get to the starting pole, they must endure more than any other competitor, or leader. Diane Crump needed a police escort to push through the mayhem at her first professional race, past shouts of “Go back to the kitchen and cook dinner!” 

As Michelle Payne, first female jockey winner of the 2015 Melbourne Cup said:

“I want to say to everyone else, ‘get stuffed’, because women can do anything and we can beat the world.”

Cue Beyonce.

#YouAreEmpowerment

Jody Wilson-Raybould

On Luck, Justice and Firsts. #YouAreEmpowering

Sometimes amazing opportunities drop in your lap. You might even call it luck. And other times, amazing opportunities come your way because you’ve worked hard your whole life, powered by a vision and passion and sought out the best people to work with and the best environment to realize your vision and passion.

The first happened to me serendipitously this Saturday. I showed up at 10 am for the CoRe Writers’ Group at the UBC Alumni Centre, where we planned to find a quiet spot to write for two hours. Those plans were immediately jettisoned when we learned about a gathering upstairs, to hear the Minister of Justice and Attorney General of Canada, Jody Wilson-Raybould, share her plans and priorities with Allard Law.

What luck!

Indeed, what luck to hear her speak, openly, powerfully and inspiring. What luck to catch a brief moment of her time after her private reception with a group of students. What luck for her to step into Canada’s most important lawyer!

Scratch that last one. That one is not due to luck.

This is that “other time” when amazing opportunities come your way. The Honourable Minister of Justice and Attorney General Wilson-Raybould is where she is today due to her own hard work, and hard choices, seizing an opportunity to run when her vision and passion was tested (in a watershed conversation with Stephen Harper). And to the hard line of PM Trudeau that his cabinet would be the first gender-balanced cabinet in Canadian history.

Wilson-Raybould is in the land of Firsts.

First and foremost, she is a First Nations leader and formerly the British Columbia regional chief of the Assembly of First Nations (AFN). “Puglaas” is Wilson-Raybould’s We Wai Kai name, which means “woman born to noble people.” It is also her twitter handle.

She is THE First-ever indigenous Justice Minister and Attorney General of Canada. That means she is also THE First indigenous woman to hold the office of Canada’s top prosecutor.

She is one of only two indigenous cabinet members, another First for Canada. (Inuk MP Hunter Tootoo, a former speaker of Nunavut’s legislative assembly, is Minster of Fisheries and Oceans and the Canadian Coastguard.)

One of 15 women cabinet ministers, a First ever gender-balanced federal cabinet.

Member of the First group of cabinet ministers tasked with transparent accountability to Canadians. 

As we celebrate International Women’s Day 2016, and the Pledge for Parity, it is so important to recognize those Firsts. The ones who make it possible for others.  Who lift others as they climb. Who look different, so others see themselves represented, and still others experience the value in diversity.

Among the many things that make Jody Wilson-Rabould different from her predecessors is her message of reconciliation.

Reconciliation for indigenous peoples in Canada, the disproportionately high rates of incarceration for indigenous women (41% of female inmates) and men (25% of male inmates), as well as for the families of the murdered and missing First Nations women.

And reconciliation within the processes of the court system, especially the criminal justice system. Her message on Saturday at UBC was the strongest I’ve heard on the potential for a clear role for Restorative Justice.

Wilson-Raybould’s track record with consensus-building gives hope for her success here, as well as within parliament as a whole working toward consensus instead of pugnacious partisanship. And seeking consensus driven approaches with other federal cabinet ministers to find the “best” answer on issues such as assisted dying.

“We like to believe every voice counts; not just the voices of fear.”

Listening to Wilson-Raybould, I was overwhelmed with hope. Hope for reconciliation. Hope for civility. Hope for integrity.

I also felt proud. Proud to be a lawyer. Proud to witness what to me is the best in being a lawyer – shaping the way peoples are in community. With each other.

She’s definitely a First in my books.

 This is my Canada on IWD2016. #YouAreEmpowering